How Black Revolutionaries Revived Love & Romance for Me

“Ohhhhh!

Don’t give up!

Don’t give up on love!”

“So this morning, as I look into your eyes, and into the eyes of all of my brothers in Alabama and all over America and over the world, I say to you, ‘I love you. I would rather die than hate you.’ And I’m foolish enough to believe that through the power of this love somewhere, men of the most recalcitrant bent will be transformed.”

Thus, women’s lives became primarily about having and raising children, which removed them from the status of being breadwinners (bread-growers, really) in the fields. On top of that, the tradition of inheritance increased the importance of being able to determine who was the father of each child. This led to women’s sexual monogamy being strictly enforced in a way it didn’t have to be for men, since it’s usually pretty obvious who the mother is at childbirth. And so began the development of the bullshit hypocritical morality around women’s bodies and sexuality that exists in most cultures to this day.”

“…romance as an ideology tells us stories that keep gender and racial hierarchies in place.”

“Romance lulls us into focusing on our love life rather than politics.”

“The struggle for liberation raised woman to such a level inner renewal that she is even able to call her husband a coward.”

“It is also the consciousness of collaborating in the immense work of destroying the world of oppression. The couple is no longer shut in on in itself. It no longer finds its end in itself.”

“The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of self and the chaos of our strongest feelings. It is an internal sense of satisfaction to which, once we have experienced it, we know we can aspire.”

“Power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anemic. Power at its best is love implementing the demands of justice, and justice at its best is power correcting everything that stands against love.”

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